Talks on raising your stepson should also include their journey of becoming a man. After all, bringing up men of integrity who are responsible is the primary goal of parenting as a stepdad. Throughout the world men are believed to have brought up the young men and initiate them into manhood. Teachings on how to properly perform the duties and responsibilities of a man was taught to young men by the village elders. Maintainance of the manhood by young men after they became men was an effort throughout their lives.
In recent times men do not have the task of leading young men into manhood ,instead they are allowed to have their perception of manhood from their experiences. This is why so many young men grow up without direction on what they are actually supposed to do as men because they are expected to figure out for themselves what manhood entails. It is very challenging for a stepfather blending into a new family to know their stand in the family and how to bond with the sons or son not your own.
A lot of energy, time and understanding will be required from you as a stepfather to know the feelings of your stepson towards himself and the blended family before creating a new relationship with him. Below are the tips that will assist you to form a strong bond with your stepson that will enable you to raise him to a grown man. Gaining the support of the biological parents of your stepson or at the least letting them know your role in their son’s life will require that you partner with them.
The mother to your stepson has had experience raising the child and knows him better than you. Therefore, she should be involved. Talking to her about the various issues she might have had while raising your stepson is the best way to creating a strong bond with him. Your stepson’s mother should be the one to make the decision when an issue arises with your stepson. Establishing a great relationship with your stepson’s father can also help improve the relationship between you and your stepson. Raising your stepson to manhood will be significantly aided if you make an effort of contacting his biological father and learning the ideas he had of bringing up his boy and reassuring him that you are not replacing him in his son’s life.
Your stepson will achieve his goals as he grows into manhood if you and his biological mother create a vision for him. The vision created will help develop your stepson emotionally, physically, intellectually and spiritually into the kind of man admired by the society.